meet the mama : jane from life on planet baby

posted on: Thursday, September 6, 2012


"Before I was pregnant I worked as a lawyer. At 7.30 am I bussed to work.  I recorded every minute. I rarely returned before 7 pm and often at 10.30 pm. I was stressed to the max.

Now at 7.30 am, I’m feeding, dressing, teeth-cleaning, face-washing, hair-brushing and bag-packing for the pixies. Joshie’s at school five days a week, India three and Sam’s at daycare for two.


At 2.15 pm, the school run starts. Then the pixies watch Play School and play. At 5pm it’s bath time. At 5.45 pm, I dress them and hopefully Mr PB then arrives to help me face dinner at the zoo. I have three of the fussiest eaters on the planet! Then it’s story time, teeth cleaning and bed at 7 pm.


When they're not at school, Sam, India and I mainly stay at home. There’s a bit of ABC Kids watched, playing in the cubby and the garden, baking and hours of imaginative play and craft. I love seeing their minds at work. On my two free days, I clean up, run errands, phone friends, catch up on emails and blogs, visit girlfriends or make something creative.


Motherhood cracks your heart open. It leaves you incredibly vulnerable. The degree of empathy and compassion I feel for others, especially parents and children, grows deeper with every passing day. It’s such a blessing.

Before I was pregnant I wish I hadn’t read baby books from cover to cover! So much advice was contradictory. That made those early newborn months so difficult. I found it hard to trust my instinct which was often spot-on.


The hardest part of being a new mum is the exhaustion. Being a 24 hour around-the-clock-on-demand milk bar is incredibly tiring. Add a completely reliant newborn and well-meaning rellies offering advice and you may become slightly cranky! It’s amazing how restorative even a few hours of unbroken sleep can be in those hazy newborn days.

My favourite part of motherhood is the unconditional love my pixies gift me. Every single day. It’s so easy to forget in the midst of the daily dramas of raising littlies but so precious to feel and acknowledge.

Sharing my thoughts with fellow mums helps me parent well. I feel part of something bigger – that wonderful sisterhood of mothers spanning the generations. It also helps me become more confident in my parenting.


When we had our 3 pixies in 3½ years, we the followed the advice, 'Now is a time to be and not do'. Don’t race around trying to achieve too much with your littlies. You’ll end up stressed and they’ll probably become over-tired and over-stimulated. Instead, try to live in the moment with them. You can pack more into your weekends when they’re older, don’t need their naps and have longer attention spans. That time will come, even if those baby days seem never-ending!

If I were to give advice to new mamas I would say find one source of advice you trust and stick with it. I found Robin Barker’s ‘Baby Love’ fantastic and common-sense. It saved my sanity. Thanks so much for having me here, Bron – it’s been delightful."

Jane blogs at Life On Planet Baby and will be soon be opening her own Etsy store to sell her wooden and wire words wrapped with Liberty fabric. 

20 comments:

  1. LOVE Jane, she's one of the sweetest, most thoughtful, compassionate bloggers I know and I loved reading her words above. I remember when I had Sophie, Jane wrote the line about 'it's a time to be, not to do' in my card and I've lived by those words ever since!! As someone who prefers simple, stress-free days focusing on the small blessings in life, those words really struck a chord with me. And what a lovely family photos of Jane and her husband and pixies above - precious!! x

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  2. I love this post...not a surprise since I love Life On Planet Baby and Jane.

    I completely agree with every word she has written here...especially using a bit a Baby Love and a lot of your instincts to find your way.
    The early days are hard but before you know it, you will start hitting your stride as a mother.

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  3. Oh Bron, you sweetheart. Thanks so much for having me here and choosing all those great photos to accompany my words. And wow, thanks Amanda and Caitlin - I'm so touched by your kind words. Gee, this bloggy caper helps us find the loveliest people. J x

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    1. Thank you for taking part Jane! I love reading all the mum stories and am so glad I am able to record some of them here :)

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  4. I love Jane's blog and think her kids are just so cute! Motherhood certainly cracks the heart wide open.

    I didn't read 1 baby book while pregnant. I started to, but found all the things that could go wrong too upsetting. I do remember Old Mr FF telling me at 18 weeks that the baby had grown eye brows. That's really all I needed to know.

    Like Jane, I made the whole thing up and relied on instinct and when the baby was 8 weeks old I followed Tizzy's Save our Sleep which worked a veritable treat.

    Love your answers Jane.

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    1. Thanks, FF. The books can either be a blessing or a burden, depending on your mindset, I guess! J x

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    1. Thanks Em. You are such a wonderful supporter of mine. J x

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  6. Jane really lives by her words, she is such a wise mother who I SO look up to and admire. I loved this post - thanks Jane and thanks Bron! Jxx

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    1. Thanks Janette, you sweetheart. Being called wise is a first, though ☺. J x

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  7. Fabulous post by the lovely Jane and beautifully written as always.
    I too have followed the 'time to be, not do' advice and I think it has saved my sanity having had four six and under.
    Keeping things simple is definitely less stressful in those early years.
    Now my children are 10, almost 8, almost 6 and almost 4 and life has become busier in a different way - lots more after school actitivies and commitments.
    I look back and am so glad we kept things simple in those early days.
    Thanks for sharing Jane and good luck with the Etsy store - a new focus for you. How exciting!

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    1. Thanks, Kat. You are always so kind to me. Yes, simple is best. You're doing a spectacular job as the mama to your 4 - I am very impressed. J x

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  8. Awww, what a beautiful family. Love following Jane and her adventures on Planet Baby. She is a truly lovely person and Mama. So nice to see a wrap up of her thoughts (and photos) on being Mum xo

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    1. Gee thanks, Jules. Maybe I should post more about them over at my place. J x

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  9. I love Jane's blog, her love of family shines through in every post.

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  10. Hi Bron,

    What a fabulous Post! Jane is actually the first Blogger I have met since starting my blog last year and I can vouch for the fact she is a super generous and gorgeous person as reflected in this Post. I'm also expecting a baby in a few months and so I'm enjoying your lovely Blog very much too!

    Mel xx

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    1. So lovely to see you here, Mel. And thanks, gorgeous girl - right back at you! J x

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  11. I have missed this post! I love jane, she is great and her blog too!

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