the baby space bump. taken at our local beach.
So we're past the halfway mark and I'm feeling goood. Mid-second trimester may be the perfect pregnancy time. All is well and the baby space baby is kicking it up -- not enough to keep me awake at night but just enough to let me know when it's awake. (Mostly in the evenings and at meal time. I remember the preschooler did the same thing :) The anxiety of the early days has gone but I'm still physically comfortable.
I can't believe that in just over four months I will really have a brand new baby. When does it stop feeling surreal? I think not until after the birth -- even when it's number three! I'm trying to imagine and remember all the dynamics that come with a newborn. Will I want lots of company after the birth, or not?
Recently the gorgeous, and always hilarious, Bridget, gave birth to wee Parker and posted a funny list of tips for visiting new mums. I LOVE this list so I thought I'd share it with you too.
How to be the perfect house guest to a new mum
by bridget from tales of me and the husband
If you are sick, stay home. That means you, sickie. The new mum will hear that cough, sniffle, sneeze even if you don't and she will give you the evil eye as you fill her sanitized home with germs. So, leave your dinner and gift on the doorstep and don't you even think about entering that house. Don't you do it!
Don't show up unannounced. She might be right in the middle of a difficult feed and lo and behold you end up seeing way more than you intended and she's been through the ringer so she's most likely entirely unaware (or plain old doesn't care) that she just flashed you. So, give her a call. And on that phone call see if she needs you to pick anything up. Diapers... wipes... snacks... eggs... wine... vodka... beer... where was I?
Pamper mum. Give her some water, some cut up veggies, some Trader Joe's peanut butter cups (they happen to be my favourite)... you get the picture. Even consider getting your license in massage therapy before coming and put that to good use.
Wash your hands. Then wash them again. If they happen to bump the doorway when you're leaving the kitchen just after washing them, turn around and redo it. If you answer your cell phone after washing them, get your butt back in there and wash them again. If you rub your nose, touch your ear, eyebrow, or hair, wash them again. They should be red, raw, and cracking when you leave. This is entirely an exaggeration that I had a lot of fun writing.
Don't kiss the baby on the lips. Or face. Come on people, we know better, right?
Don't bring your small children. As my sister put it, they are filthy creatures. Sweet, innocent, tender, yes. But filthy.
Ask what you can do. Laundry? Filling the dishwasher? Painting the house? Washing the windows? Cleaning the chimney? Ya know. Little things.
Bring a meal and some snacks. She will love you forever.
Take a cue from mum. If she seems tired, spent... get your butt outta there fast. Don't forget to vacuum on your way out.
He, he. Thanks so much to Bridget for sharing this. Do you have any rules you'd like to add? I'd love to hear!